The SINGLE key word to happiness... is NOT "Marijuana". Thanks alot, 7-8, but please try again. CoI does not condone anything that does harm to the body.
*knocks 7-8 on the head*
The key to happiness is CHOICE.
And its free! Take it or leave it, its entire up to you.
For every unhappy incident you encounter, you can DEFINITELY find some good in it
Example 1: You learnt that your pay is low compared to some of your peers. And worse case, you are bonded for 6 POOKing years.
You can choose to
(1) feel disgruntled, underpaid, unappreciated and become unmotivated in your work, dragging yourself to work every day till the bond ends.
(2) be glad that there is still some consolation prizes in your current job. Pay may be slightly lower, but you have wonderful colleagues and decent working hours, unlike the guy whose pay is higher. And be glad that you have a job, I have peers who have been jobless for quite a few months. Anyway, there is always Toto!
Truly happy people look forward, not back!
Example 2: Some people ask, how can I be happy if my grandparent pass away? I'm not asking anyone to be happy when it comes to death. No one in the right logical mind will feel happy. But you have a choice!
You can choose to
(1) be depressed and regretful for the rest of your miserable life OR
(2) cry a few days and move forward and fulfil any wishes by your grandparents. He will be happier ONLY if you are happy.
Case 3: You have a shitty day at work. Your boss says your work sucks big time. You can choose to either
(1) sulk the whole day, unable to get back to work OR
(2) think positive! Think about the reasons and move on to do a better piece of work.
Case 4: Your wife quarrels with you. You can choose either to
(1) quarrel with her and risk straining the relationship OR
(2) seek a amicable compromising solution.
Yes, you may think I make it sound so easy.
But many people including myself have done it!
With the practise of the CHOICE mentality, positive thinking will soon become a natural thought.
CHOICE mentality doesn't happen overnight. It takes alot of conscious effort in the beginning to condition and remind yourself that you have a CHOICE. When I first started off, I gotta admit it does seem like I'm faking happiness. But once it sinks in, you start to see everything from a different light - a positive one.
Once you have achieved the CHOICE mentality, you will find that things get better not because circumstance has changed, but because your reactions has changed. And yes, you will enjoy life better and find the Earth a wonderful place to live in! And then there's no more "faking", because having happier choices becomes integrated with your life.
Markov Rule: The future is dependent on the present, not the past!
You will get drenched in a heavy rain, but you will no longer grumble about it! Instead, you will enjoy the moment of getting drenched. And even do a little dancing and singing in the rain if there's no one looking !! Just make sure you bring an umbrella the next time round. Anyway, even if you fall sick, there's still MC !!!
And then maybe, just maybe, you will start to advocate world peace.
Remember this!
You cannot have control of ALL the events that are happening in your life, but you can CHOOSE how you want to react to ALL of them.
CHOICE mentality will make you a whole new man/woman.
And happiness will come the natural way.
Its true!
Have a happy day making CHOICEs!
Cheers! ^_^
4 comments:
Arrrhhh... but then when u choose woman over brothers, ur brothers are unhappy,... so are u happy that ur brothers are not happy? o i know,..... IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT UR BROTHER THINK. WAHHAHAHAHAHA... 2 words for u brother,.. SUX IT.
*Just kidding*
Wifey > Brother.
Fact. ^_^
that's a great post! i totally agree, i think that is much of my approach to things too, and i have found it makes a great difference.
someone (i think it was 7-8) said, "isn't that very ah-Q?" i realised, hey yeah, it is! but i thought about it and felt i don't have a problem with that as long as it doesn't become a reason for complacency or a loss of the will to fight for something better - you can be happy but it doesn't mean you have to as a result strive to be even happier!
"not"
ahem.
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