Monday, June 7

My kid and me (Part 1)

We all have our secrets. And today, I shall share mine with all my faithful readers.

But before I move on to it, let me give a little background about myself.

I grew up in a poor family where my parents were busy working to earn a living for the family. I grew up deprived of time with my parents - my mum spends her whole life working in a factory, coming home late and was busy doing all the laundries and wiping the floor and cooking for us. She sleeps for less than 6 hours a day.

But she is also health conscious for us. She will condition us to cut down on food with artificial coloring and flavoring. And she cuts a variety of fruits for us to eat every day, knowing how lazy we children are.

My dad on the other hand, was a quiet guy. He likes to read newspapers, and also those news and history films on TV. He loved us, just chose not to show it. When I was younger, he will tell me to brush my teeth daily, failing which he say “I will regret in future”. And I did.

It’s amazing how history tends to repeat itself.

For those who do not know, I have a kid.

And today, I’m teaching my little kid not to take in junk food. I’m also cutting fruits for her and putting them nicely on a plate before giving it to her. And I also make a fuss my my kid doesn’t brush her teeth, saying that it's something she will regret in future.

Ironic, isn’t it? How we can grow up detesting some stuffs that our parents do, and yet duplicate the same behaviour on our kid?


RicAdeMus said...

I agree. It's funny how having kids helps us to understand our parents a little better. My dad didn't show his feelings either--unless he was angry. But when a nurse put my little daughter in my arms for the first time, I knew my dad must have loved all of us. How could a father not??? =)

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

Oh well...some kids grow up just like their parents. For example, when i caught kids smoking, i noticed that their parents are also smokers. But then, not all kids yeah?

Ai Shiang said...

I do too agree. Somehow kids these days are smarter I reckon. You don't fool them easily. Like brushing their teeth, you might have to give her a new "cause" or statement and not just "you'll regret it".

My mom used to give me lots of advices thought now I think her advices would be more effective if a strong reason(s) is/are given.

Since I don't have a kid. With that, some time when I advise my clients I give reasons good enough to get them to listen or do for their own good.

MKL said...

Wow, you have a kid? How come you didn't mention it? I guess it's normal, kids will be kids and adults adults. I also see myself totally shifting my views on some things, especially kids. I will try my best to teach them what's good and what's bad.

Manju said...

its later on when we grow up that we can really appreciate everything out parents have done for us.

ChinkyGirLMeL said...

I wonder how I will be like when I have a kid of my own someday. My mom always tells me in a few years from now when I have kids of my own I'll find myself telling my kids to do something that she once used to tell me. =)

Keats The Sunshine Girl said...

Things do come round in full circle. Kids will always be kids and they get told the same things.

Anonymous said...

The cycle of life repeats. Don't throw out good advice.

HappySurfer said...

I've always believed that education begins at home.

Wenny Yap said...

Youngsters tends to be rebellious in their quests to seek an identity of their own. With age and wisdom only do we come to appreciate our parents' efforts and wisdom.

Doris Plaster said...

That's funny...but so very true! I have found myself acting just like my parents, doing things that I hated the most about them when I was a teenager, i.e. preaching and controlling... "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree" :-))

Anonymous said...

There's tis thing call "Mental Imprint". It stores events/situation into your subconscious when you are least aware of it, and will manifest when the situation is "ripe".

Guess that's just what's happening to you. But no worries right? After all you're training your kid the right things.

foongpc said...

History repeats itself - that's what is happening. And so now you begin to understand your parents better, yes?

rama said...

I am Rama from India. I read your blog and could relate to it completely.
Though there is not much age difference between my husband and myself, he treats me also like a child.
He cuts vegetables, fruits etc., because he feels I am not good at it.He looks after my every need.
And sometimes I wonder what would happen to me, if he was not there.
Well, I just get over the feeling , by telling myself I am so lucky and thank God for giving me such a wonderful husband.
Do come and visit my blogs too.
Have great Day, Rama.

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