I have always been proud to be a forward-looking guy. Close colleagues and friends know me as someone who only cares about the future and not the past.
I can't change the past, but I can mould my future.
I make plenty of mistakes in my life, but I don't sulk or get depressed over them. I live with it, and use it as a guiding principle not to repeat the same mistake ever again.
You won't appreciate what is right until you got it wrong.
And in line with this value, there are some words/phrases that I refrain from using (unless I am joking). And one of such phrases is "I told you so", or any variants of this phrase.
In fact if you use this phrase on me, I might just slap you silly (doesn't apply for Wifey though). =p
You see, I find this phrase very finger pointing. It assigns a blame on the recipient for not listening to his advice. You only make him more miserable than he already is for not listening to you.
Remember, everytime you are tempted to say "I told you so", remember there are also cases of "luckily he never follow what I say" in life.
But I have to admit there are times when I am instinctively tempted to say "I told you so", but somehow the words just don't come out from my mouth. I know it won't make the recipient feel any better, and worse case, it might even ignite a quarrel.
If he remembered that I told him before, then so be it. I do not have to remind him.
If he doesn't, then why bring that up?
So I will instead try to create value, like giving him my opinions on how I think he can go about getting out of the sh*t he is in.
And chances are that after the conversation, he will feel better about himself.
And that makes me feel good.