Tuesday, June 1

Right and wrong.

I have always been a peace-loving guy at work. It doesn't mean I'm conflict-avoidance, just that I seldom lose my cool at conflicts. Colleagues have thus stereotyped me to be a good hubby. The truth is that Wifey and I do quarrel now and then. But we just resolve them more maturely and faster than others by making her kneel on those durian shells. The point is not to win a quarrel at the risk of weakening a relationship - conflicts are meant to strengthen bonds.

It takes 2 hands to clap, and 1 hand to slap.

There can never be a party who is wholly correct - both parties have their faults (though they may not acknowledge it for egoistic purpose). When you believe you are right and say the other party is wrong, that's like using your one hand to slap him, and that makes you wrong.

Whenever there are disputes, both parties are both correct in their viewpoint, but also wrong in their accusation.

Life is a balance of black and white. The refusal to undergo abortion may be a right for humanity, but may be a wrong when the kid grows up unhappy under the care of a unprepared mum.

Even for the thriving economy of Singapore, it makes the typical Singaporean richer. But at what price? Rising inflation, a change in social behaviour (people rushing for seats on trains). Is this right or wrong?

Who are we to judge what's right and what's wrong? As that chapter of the bible goes, who are we to throw stones at others when we are sinners ourselves?

At work, perfomance indicators can be pretty contradicting. Today, the boss wants a high output, and the manager does it easily by employing more people. The next day, the boss stresses on cost cutting, people get lay off, and the output drops.

So we concluded that what's right at work is taking care of the bosses's "Flavour of the Day". And at what expense?

Everything is right and wrong.

Learn to be less judgemental, and you will find that your days, and those around you, better!


Erny said...

yes, my friend once told me, there is no right or wrong in this world. it is the thinking that makes it wrong..

Bananazą®‡ said...

In Cantonese used to hear people say "chan chan kar kar, kar kar chan chan" real and unreal, unreal and real haha. Like this line ~ [It takes 2 hands to clap, and 1 hand to slap.] ~;) tQ.

Keats The Sunshine Girl said...

Not easy for someone to admit a wrong. Or even say I'm sorry.' But I know, if ones tries, it always takes a load off one's shoulders:)

Pesto Sauce said...

So true

Lily Riani said...

so agree, now am sooo stressful with work am losing my cool and i was being told of by 2 vendors that it is getting out of hand... am worried as it is impacting me and the rest of ppl ard me. i need to maintain cool like u,

foongpc said...

Haha! Yes, there is no right or wrong. Everyone is right and wrong in his/her own ways : )

the girl in stiletto said...

i'm quoting that clap/slap thing :)

Mei Teng said...

Haha..making her kneel on durian shells?!! You can still slap with both hands what...haha.

Mei Teng said...

"There can never be a party who is wholly correct - both parties have their faults"

Whilst it's true that one should not be too quick to pass judgement behind every act, nevertheless in some situations there is a case of a right and a wrong. The law is put in place to tell people what is right and wrong. The person doing the wrong may very well deem his actions aren't wrong but if it trepasses the law of the land..then it's wrong isn't?

MKL said...

Great post, bro. I try my best not to tell people what they should do, but what I would do or what could be done. It's one to share your opinion as an option, another to say you're right and they're wrong.

Wenny Yap said...

I agree 100% with your ending sentence.

Judge not others for they will not judge you.

rama said...

Yes,I agree with you. There is no right or wrong. We have to think wisely and take the middle path.
You blogs are really interesting, I am unable to leave your space.

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