The truth is Wifey and I have our fair share of disagreements, like most couples. Even though we are quick to defend our self-interest, we resolve issues very amicably in every occassion.
Every obstacle is actually a building block that makes the marriage foundation stronger.
Having conflicts is good ONLY IF it gets solved the RIGHT way. And it makes you better at handling future conflicts.
In worst case, learn to sleep and forget the next day.
Everytime you are pissed off about the other half before going to sleep, recall one thing wonderful about the person when you wake up.
And that's easy when it comes to me - I have alot of wonderful memories of my Wifey being really nice. In fact, it makes me feel guilty about losing my temper sometimes. =(
Sleeping over problems doesn't mean we avoid problems by sleeping over it. It's just that problems get resolved easier when both parties think with a clear head. It's also not about you getting the solution you want, but for both parties to agree on a compromised and sustainable solution, so that the same problem will not come back to haunt you.
Every problem needs a proper closure.
Learn to stop talking when you are pissed. Chances are that whatever comes out from your mouth may only make it worse. Don't win a war of words, and end up losing the bond.
About the Author: Shingo T does not make his Wifey kneel on durians for 3 hours whenever he's angry. 3 hours is too long and inhumane.