Getting attached is the easy part. Maintaining a relationship is definitely harder as we start having higher (and sometimes unrealistic) expectations of each other.
But fret not, marriage is no graveyard. A good marriage can be very rewarding and fulfilling, you just gotta do it right. ^_^
I read the story of this guy who was married for many years. He was also an avid golfer, and spent many hours every week on his golf. His wife however, was not into golf, and will stay at home over the weekends with the kids.
Many years later, the kids grew up and moved away to start their own family. And the wife now had too much time at hand and nothing to do. The guy could have continued his golfing, but he gave it up so that those hours can be channeled into going for walks with his wife. How sweet! ^_^
He loved golf, but he loved his wife more.
Every couple should spend quality time together, while having a little “me” time to find back themselves. But when a partner in a relationship spend too much time pursuing his/her individual hobbies, or spending too much hours working, the couple can start drifting apart. And this could be dangerous, as the married couple start living their own separate lives even when staying together. The spouse should never become a stranger sleeping on the same bed as you.
A buddy of mine was very into dragonboating and phototaking, hobbies which his girlfriend did not engage in. The events took up a huge part of his weekends, and though his girlfriend “didn’t mind”, I thought it was a little self-centered. Good thing they are now married, and planning to move together. Hopefully he will find more time to spend with her. After all, some girls are like plants. They need to be showered with love and be reminded that they are in our priority queue.
The point of this post? Sometimes in life, we got to sacrifice something in order to gain something that matters much more. And years down the road, you will realise that it's all worth it.
Know what or who REALLY matters in your life, and NEVER lose that focus.