Saturday, November 20

It doesn't matter!

I always thought teaching was my destiny. It still is, just not at a school. I am constantly amazed at how the Ministry of Education try to brand teaching as a very noble job. Don't get me wrong, moulding the nation is an important role, just that there are too much politicking and admin work among the Singapore school teachers these days, and many are packed to the point that they lose the kind of work-life balance.

There was a teacher in Singapore who devoted 20 years of her life in school trying to mould the nation. Then she discovered she had cancer, but still continued going to go back to school to nurture the next generation. When she died, the school didn't bother to even pay for an orbituary for her. It's not that the school was too poor to do so, they probably see no need to. Money was better spent to paint the walls to maintain the image of the school. So the school staff had to rally and pressure the principal to spare some money for something to remember the teacher's contribution - the school gave in and paid for a small orbituray on the papers.

Anyway, this post isn't about teaching. Rather, it's about the many things in life that doesn't matter.

How often have you wanted to do something, but end up not doing it just so as to please your friends and family? And that lead to some kind of regret in some point your life.

The next video is a hip number called It doesn't matter, and carries a nice message. =p

So you spend 20 years working your a** off for your company?
It doesn't matter! What's your name again? And I don't POOKing care about the contributions you made.

So you are richer than everyone else and just want to flaunt off?
It doesn't matter! It doesn't make us envious, it only make us realise the kind of a** that you are. =p

So you won the beauty pageant 20 years ago?
It doesn't matter! You look nowhere near that now.

So your friends are gossiping behind your back for breaking off with the boyfriend?
It doesn't matter! Their turn will come soon.

So you have has a first class honours/MBA/PhD?
It doesn't matter! You are working for people with half your qualifications but earning a few times your salary.

So you have.....
*puts a hand to your face*
It doesn't matter! Nobody cares! =p

Don't be over-concerned about what people think about you, and end up making decisions just to please them, and screw your own life in the process.

Now repeat this pledge after me, my friends. ^_^

I am a human being, not a donkey.
If you don't respect my values, don't expect me to respect yours.
I am not here to please you, I'm here to RULE.
You can try to piss me, but I ain't give you the sh*t you deserve.
I am SOLELY responsible for leading my own life.

About the Author: Shingo T will like to dedicate this post to people who are too conscious about how they appear in front of others. Seriously, no one cares.


HappySurfer said...

That's why Wyclef Jean is running for President of Haiti. It doesn't matter.. LOL!

Yep, don't sweat the small stuff because life is really too short!

Thanks for the reminder.

Lily Riani said...

me exboss said the same thing, when i tried to save money by taking bus to an event. she said the co not going to give you even a pack on the back and say "good job"... they prob dont know who you are amongst the few thousands of staff. then i realise, why bother, do waht you've paid and prob a little bit. but to kill yourself along the way and step on ppl's toe.

Ai Shiang said...

It is very true that no one really cares of your contribution after you've left. It is so true that you can't please anyone. I too, don't really care how people perceive me.

It's more important that he/she is happy with himself/herself. Isn't it?

Shingo T said...

gosh, I didn't know that. Do people become celebrities so that they can end up in politics?

Lily Riani:
If the company is making millions of dollars, the taxi fare means nothing. =p

Ai Shiang:
Yup. I always make peace with myself (and Wifey). No one else matters.

MKL said...

I think people do care, at least here where I live, we honor those who have done something in life, contributed to the family, village, society. When I walk around my town and see some statues of our generals or poets from the past, I take a moment and thank them silently for shaping my language and giving me the freedom I enjoy. Of course in a heavily materialistic capitalistic society we're only seen as moneymaking tools and that's really wrong. Glad that so far I did not have the pleasure to be part of such companies.

khengsiong said...

Gotta 'like' this post, haha...

The Envoy said...

This is the way I live my life :)
*Thumbs up for this post*

Bananazą®‡ said...

Respect is earned not given. Live and let live..

Cookie said...

Yay for this post, eye opener ^_^

HappySurfer said...

During the recent earthquake, he did a lot for the victims/people/nation financially and other aspects. Being a Haitian and being who he is, I believe he's in a position to help his country and people.

Mei Teng said...

This is my personal take - don't make choices that will compromise your personal values and integrity just to earn someone's favour.

I like what I read about someone's spouse telling her that he would rather see her fail at what she loves doing than succeed in something she hates.

iamthewitch said...

Well written.. Sometimes I find myself in the same situation too and it's not easy to pull myself back up and see the big picture. We all need some reminder once in a while :)

[SK] said...

hmmm, if you can always say "it doesn't matter" to yourself, i guess you'd always live a happy life.. :)

Jo said...

I always find our teaching and army advertisements really hilarious. I agree with you about how teaching is always branded as a noble job here. I love to teach but I don't like doing all teh other admin work that takes up half the time at school. Hence, I would never ever join MOE as a teacher. I'm in the teaching line nonetheless, just not the official one. ;)

I think I'll be popping by here more often. Your posts are easy to read and come with a dash of humour.

Kym said...

haha yup, lifes to short to lose sleep over things that don't really matter!

// krissy ♥ said...

The song "In the End" by Linkin Park also carries the same message. I've actually memorized that song and it's one of the reasons why I sound like a croaky toad now (LOL we stayed up all night during our teambuilding singing in the videoke). The chorus goes, "I tried so hard and got so far, but in the end it doesn't even matter. I had to fall to lose it all, but in the end it doesn't even matter." This is a nice post :)

Netster said...

It doesn't matter I've work for 7 years... I get my ass and nuts kicked anyway! So it doesn't matter.

Now that I understand...

I just want to say Fuck You to my previous company and may the karma bite your ass off fucker!

Now if you would excuse me and my language, I like to repeat this pledge to my previous retard employer...

"I am a human being, not a fucking donkey.
If you don't respect my values, don't expect me to fucking respect yours.
I am not here to fucking please you, I'm here to fucking RULE.
You can try to fucking piss me, but I ain't give you the sh*t you deserve.
I am SOLELY responsible for leading my own life."

<<< ----- >>>>

Hi guys, I don't really know who type the above... he must be so pissed! please don't point your finger at me :) I didn't type that :D


Netster said...

Actually guys I am happy that I have gain the experience and I am grateful for my friends who have supported me all these while in my previous job. In fact, I was on a some what high position.

Well your life could ruin by one single self centered person and there's nothing you can do about it when you work under the same roof.

These top guns are just just another being that try to survive.

I forgive this guy for ruin my life but I am grateful I have to walk on a harder path (which I almost died - didn't eat for a week) to find my real self and life.

Cheers all

The Bimbo said...

I must remember what you say. :)
That what I think about myself and what I think will affect me.
Thanks Shingo! :)

Shingo T said...

Thanks for the compliments. You make my day (ok, it's night time now).

haha, I was listening to the Linken Park song over and over again these few days. Love the lyrics. =p

Netster's Alter Ego:
wow, gangsta style manz. Help me say hi to Netster. ^_^

foongpc said...

Yeah, it doesn't matter. And this blog doesn't matter too, haha!! Juz kidding : D

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