Saturday, October 31

Love: Teenage dreams vs. adult expectations



I was reading about the latest entry by MKL of the same title.

I was going to comment on his site, when I thought, I will probably be writing so much that I might as well start a post on it.

Yes MKL, sue me for copyright infringement. =p

(1) I won't be in love with someone and not tell them

I had my first crush in secondary school and didn't had the guts to tell this female classmate that I had a crush on her. I followed her to the same junior college. After knowing her for 6 years and we graduated from junior college, I still didn't had the guts to ask her out. And there goes my first crush, I kind of wasted 6 years. Thinking back, it was quite obvious, the way I will go out of my way to look for her in school. I was often get teased by my friends, as well as her friends. She probably sensed it, but didn't question my intentions either because
(A) she's shy, or
(B) she doesn't know how to reject me.
Till now, I still don't know which.

And then there was my next crush in university. Being the smart guy that I am academically, I was often flooded by gals asking me for help in schoolwork. But none of them attracted me as much as this quiet girl (I have this something for housewife-material gals). Every Sunday noon, I would write a list of stuffs that I want to talk to her about over the phone. But she will only reply very short answers, like a curt "Yes" or "No". And soon, I will run out of stuffs to talk to her about. it was pretty awkward, holding the phone and there was silence from both sides. So I would wished her happy weekends before I dropped my phone. After we graduated from university, I did confess my feelings (that's the first time in my life), but over email. Emailing my confession make it easier lest I get rejected. As with the law of attraction, my fear of being rejected attracted a reply from her, saying that she knew I was attracted to her all along, but she didn't know how to reject me. Ouch! There goes 4 years.

And so, I learnt that guys should not be wasting time making their intentions known. So when I met Wifey, it took me 3 weeks to ask for her to be my girlfriend. And I held her hand from that day onwards.

(2) I'm more confident about myself and the way I look

I was never that confident of my looks. I was skinny, non-athletic, and probably very nerdy with no striking features (does double eyelid count?). For a while, I felt as if the whole world was getting attached except myself.

As I grew up, I realised that gals in Singapore were actually less superficial about guy's looks than I thought.

Two important things I learnt.
(A) If a girl has a nice personality or looks, it doesn't neccessarily mean she's attached.
(B) If a guy is average (or below average) looking, it doesn't mean he's destined to spend the rest of his life being single.

Having average looks can be out staged by having a magnetic personality. Confidence is key, as it gives the gal some form of security.

Average looking guy with confidence > Great looking guy with no confidence (ie. handsome wimp)

(3) Being romantic goes a long way in the love investment

Having a thick skin helps, because that's how you stand out among your competitors with your bag of self-depreciating tricks.

Heard of the guy who wraps flowers in a black garbage bag because he was too shy to be caught holding flowers to give his girlfriend? Gone case.

There's probably more, but I gotta start working (brought my laptop home to work). So I'll just end here. Drop by MLK's entry to read his perspective of the same topic.

Cheers!

Thursday, October 29

Can't get enough of the Japan photos?

Tokyo Tower. It's MUCH shorter than the Eiffel Tower, so we didn't go up.


East Garden of the Imperial Palace. We aren't allowed into the Imperial Palace of course, it's the current residence of the Japan royalties, who are much loved by the Japanese.


The lovely town of Hakone. Lovely hot springs, and the best place to see Mount Fuji without stepping foot there.


Wifey with the breakfast served by a traditional ryokan (Japanese inn). The soup to the left is pumpkin soup. And the fish is tasty!


Mini hot spring in the ryokan we stayed in. Guys in one room, gals in another room. So what happens when Wifey and I are the only guest in the ryokan? That means we are king!


What happens when a storm is expected? Tie the dustbins to the wall!


Japanese school gals in Disneyland.


DisneySea. Japan is the only country with DisneySea. Consider a more adult version of Disneyland. No no, I don't mean "adult stuffs", I mean the rides are more heart-stopping.


Pocohontas feeding peanuts to her racoon in DisneySea.


One of the famous crossroads in Shibuya where gazillion of people cross the road in all directions while the cars wait for the green light. The more famous one is in Shinjuku, but I didn't get to snap it.


I didn't get to snap much of Japanese gals in Cosplay. But I got one for an angmoh lady, sportingly wearing Belle (the Beauty in "The Beauty and the Beast")'s costume. Bet she got it from Disneyland the day before. Ravishing, isn't it? Hey, is the guy behind... MKL?


Hope you enjoy the photos, and hope all thes pictures aren't slowing Cup of Ice's loading rate.

Tuesday, October 27

More random photos from Japan

A temple in Nikko, on the offskirts of Tokyo. And it's listed in the World Heritage sites. Temples situated within a forest with tall trees. Cool!


People waiting to cross the road in the town of Nikko. Most Japanese know not to cross the road when the red man is on sight.


More ramen! And gyozas (pork wrapped dumplings) on the right.


Ice cream vending machine.


Yoshinoya is considered cheap food by the standards of Japan. They say the beef bowl in Japan is a MUST TRY! Well, Wifey thinks it's only so-so.


Policeman in the famous Tsujiki fish market directing traffic.


Does these look like ice cream bars? Nope, these are succulent eggs. S$1.50 (or US$1.10) a stick.


Vampires and mystic creatures roam the streets of Ginza (that's the equivalent of Orchard Road in Singapore, or Bukit Bintang in KL).


How much does the durian (aka king of fruits) cost in Japan? 4500 yen. That's S$90 (or US$65). Come to Malaysia to eat it, it's way cheaper!


Woman dressed in traditional kimono, on the way to the Meiji Shrine.


This is so cute! A happy Japanese family.


You know the mountain. It is said that only lucky tourists in the town of Hakone get to see the mountain, as it is often hidden by clouds.


More pics to come? Sure!

Sunday, October 25

Random photos from Japan

Pachinko outlets - Smoking is allowed in these joints.
And guess what the prizes are? Cigarettes. That's why we didn't play.


Cigarette vending machines. Luckily we don't have that in Singapore & Malaysia. It would have made cigarettes way too accessible.


Food anyone?


Japanese White rice wrapped with succulent eggs. It taste damn good!


Rickshaw drivers in Japan.


Statue of Liberty in Odaiba, Japan.
Or are we in the United States?
(Odaiba is like Singapore's Suntec City, where you can find convention halls)


Japan's famous Rainbow bridge, connecting mainland Japan to Odaiba.
It's lovely when you view it in the evening. Did I mention that Japan is dark at 5pm in October?


Curry Rice. Yum yum, but actually it taste like the one we had in Singapore.


Scenery taken from the train. We were outside greater (central) Tokyo.


No one leaves Japan without trying their ramen. There are 2 types of ramen
(1) ramen that comes with VERY potent (MSG laden?) soup
(2) yucky ramen that taste like the maggi mee soup we have in Malaysia/Singapore.


Takoyaki (octopus) balls that Wifey ordered. The restaurants give us unlimited ice water to go with this (even though I wasn't eating). How nice. Wifey says the balls are very bouncy, very juicy, much better than the ones we eat in Singapore.


Smoking boxes. Ok, the glass panel says "smoking station". These are the BEST invention in Japan - simple and effective. Smokers stay in, non-smokers stay out.


More pics to come.

Tuesday, October 20

Nothing to fear

There is nothing to fear but fear itself.

And I am proud to proclaim to the whole world that my guts are unstoppable.

There is nothing in the world that I fear.

Except for heights.
And high speed roller coasters.
And deep water.
And lizards.

Hmm... what else did i miss out?
Oh never mind.

Monday, October 19

20 things I loved about Japan

It's been about a week since I returned from my 12-day vacation in Tokyo. Japan was quite an eye-opener for me, particularly their culture. Below are some of the positive observations (and comparisons) I have made.

I will write another set of "What they can learn from Singapore/Malaysia" in a separate blog entry.

(1) Japan is a really country with really courteous people
In particular, the people from the service industry. The cashiers at 7-Eleven, the workers at the small grocery shops, and of course the salespeople at the shopping outlets.

Contrast that to Singapore (and Malaysia). While there are places with excellent service staffs, there are also alot of
- unenthusiastic salespeople who are just waiting for their shift to end
- salespeople who follow me around as if I am a possible shoplifter
- self-employed bosses who get irritated when the customers don't buy their stuff after walking around the shop.

(2) Japan is a place where trust makes things easier for everyone
There are alot of cyclists on the pavements of Tokyo. And many of them leave behind their bicycle unattended, without even chaining it up. For a country to exhibit such a behaviour, it must really mean that their theft rate is low. Contrast that to my experience in Singapore, I have chained my bicycles and they still get stolen in broad daylight after a few hours.

On rainy days, alot of people put their umbrellas at the door of the shops. In Singapore, no one does that, fearing their umbrellas will get stolen by people who are caught in the rain.

Same goes for the shoes. When I visit Japanese temples in the beginning, I was a little apprehensive at first about leaving my new shoes outside the temple doors. In Singapore, ,most people don't leave new shoes outside the doorsteps of their flats, lest they get stolen. It's pretty sad, isn't it? When people enter my flat, they asked that my shoes be brought in. In Japan, everyone leaves their new shoes outside the temples with no concerns of theft.

(3) Japanese have strong legs?
Ok, this is just a little sarcasm for what's happening in Singapore. We have a very bad issue with commuters rushing inside the trains just so that they can grab an empty seat. It really makes us look ugly in front of the tourists. Kiasu Singaporeans squeeze their way in before the commuters in the train can get out. In contrast, the Japanese line up in one single file at the train platform. No rushing, and no one gets hurt. In fact, I have seen many cases when there are empty seats in the Japan subway trains, and yet people choose to stand!

(4) Japanese are law-abiding
I thought Tokyo was supposed to be a place where stress level are high, and people run instead of walk. It's true, you do see quite a few Japanese running around in their office attire to chase the next train. But at traffic junctions, Japanese actually wait for the green man to appear before they cross. Compare that to Singapore and Malaysia, where people cross the road anytime, so long as it appears to be safe.

(5) Go in from the back, and out from the front
In Singapore and Malaysia, we board the bus from the front and pay our fares. One problem with this is that some commuters actually underpay their fares because it is hard for drivers to keep track of where they alight. I know, because I used to be a bus fare cheat when I was younger.

In some of the buses in Japan, people board the bus from the back door. They do not pay the fare upfront, but instead grab a ticket which states where they board the bus. When they alight, they alight from the front door, and show this ticket to the driver, before paying their fare. In this way, it becomes harder to underpay. but then again, I can already think of a loophole in this system - damn, I'm smart!

On a side note, when you drop your money to pay your bus fare, the machine returns you the change. How cool is that?

(6) Japanese cars have no car horns?
Throughout my 12-day trip there, I almost never hear any car horns. In Singapore, car horns are so normal. Our drivers horn when
(1) they need to notify their car-pooling friend/wife/mistress that they have reached.
(2) the car in front is not moving fast enough.
(3) the car in front is slow to react when the traffic light turned green.
(4) they don't like the face of the other driver.

(7) Japanese do not draw on walls
Vandalism is not a common thing in Japan. In Singapore, we see vandalism in many places. Any walls in Singapore is a potential drawing paper. And when you enter toilet cubicles, you see doors defaced with vulgarities, or listed handphone numbers of pimps.

(8) Japanese can pee better
Japanese toilets are clean. And you don't see urine stained toilet bowls. In my Singapore office, I still see pee below the urinals, or lining the toilet bowl seat. Gosh, we need to learn how to aim better.

(9) Japan is free ice water paradise
Ice cold water is free at almost every Japan-run eartery. I went to eat ice cream, and they serve free ice water. I eat a small bowl of noodles, and they serve free water. Gosh, even when Wifey ordered takoyaki balls (otopous balls) at a restaurant, they serve ice water.

Ice water is not just given free, but customers are given easy access to free ice water - there are numerous ice water jugs for you to drink as much as you like.

I pity the soft drinks companies doing business in Japan. Ya right, as if I care. =p

(10) Japanese know how to clear their own mess
Singapore and Malaysia have a food court culture, where you leave your used plates and utensils on the table after we finish eating. After all, that's our way of keeping the cleaners employed. It's pretty ironic how we leave a messy table after we eat, and yet we always search for the cleanest table to have our dinner on.

In Japan, people clear their tables after they finish eating. It becomes such a big part of their culture, you would have been an outcast if you do not clear the used trays and plates.

(11) Special train carriages
You may have heard of the women-only carriages in Japan. But do you know that there are also "Mild aircon" carriages? Since trains are segregated into a few carriages, it makes it easy to have a mild aircon carriage for the old, and the cold.

Time for us to implement similar carriages - one for "Mild aircon", and maybe one called "Freezing North pole"?

(12) Japanese phones do not ring
In Singapore, people revolves their life around their handphones. In order to show off their handphone ringtones, you get to hear them go off on train, shopping centres, food courts, and even the cinema (some people just don't understand). When commuting on public transports, one is sure to hear handphones ringing every few minutes.

Coming to Japan, it is hard to hear ringtones (just like car horns). Phones ringing are banned in many places, including many parts of the trains. I believe it was done to reduce any possible annoyance to the ageing japanese population.

After I came back to Singapore, I sighed knowing that I came back to the real-world, to the nation of "cool" ringtones.

(13) The best invention comes from Japan
No offense to my smoking friends (sorry, Plankton). But most non-smokers hate the smell of smoke. In Japan, smoking is banned on many of the streets and outdoor locations. Tobacco companies have thoughtfully provided community ashtrays in the few areas where smoking is still allowed.

Do you know it is bad etiquette to smoke while walking in Japan? In Singapore, I often find myself walking behind a smoker, and always have to overtake him so that he smells my fart instead. =p

So in Japan, one is less likely to breathe in 2nd hand smoke in the streets, which is good.

So what's this "best invention" that I'm talking about? Smoking boxes! These are enclosed transparent glass containers that you see in parks and open places. If you want to smoke, get into the smoking boxes with other smokers. I think It's Japan way for helping smokers to kill one another with 2nd hand smoke.

(14) Yes, Japan cashiers can count
Some time ago, my friend whose family runs a business told me that his cashier sometimes faced problems with customers who claim to have received the wrong change -the customers would say they gave $50 notes instead of $10 notes.

Well, the smart Japanese cashiers have a way to get over this. They put the large bill that they have recived on the table, and then count the change in front of you before giving you back the change. By flipping the dollar notes slowly and counting right before your eyes, there are no disputes. Subtle and ingenious!

(15) Japanese are punctual people
The Japanese have fixed timetables for buses and trains. If you checked online and it says the train will leave at 7.53am. It will leave at 7.53am. Even for highway buses, if the highway bus or train reaches its stop too early, it will wait at the stop till it aligns back to its scheduled bus, before moving on.

So in Japan, you won't get the "When bus don't come, they really don't come. When buses finally come, they come in two or threes" syndrome. Arrival times of buses don't follow an exponential distribution.

(16) Japanese elders are respected
In Singapore, dumping the parents to old age homes is growing as a trend as people get more self-centred as a result of prosperity. Old people getting tricked into buying magic stones, old people getting robbed in lifts, these are common news that we read on the local newspapers. Most TV artiste slowly leave the station as their popularity drops with age. And alot of people in their 50s and above are having problem finding a job.

In Japan, 40,000 Japanese live over the age of 100, thanks to their prudent diet (minimal red meat!). I understand that Japanese businesses have often traditionally promoted people largely based on age and length of service, rather than ability alone. The typical Japanese is more courteous to those older than themselves, even if by few years.

If you watch Japanese dramas, you will see many veterans in pivotal roles. In Singapore dramas serials, they are often headlined by eye-candies.

(17) No PDAs in Japan
There are no public display of affections (PDA) in Japan. Wifey observed this, and I agree with her. It's a surprising finding for me, I was expecting fashion frontrunners to be a little more "expressive".

In Singapore, we often see debates on whether kids these days are overly expressive. The older generation here tend to get a little uncomfortable seeing kids these days hugging and kissing in public. Well, maybe they should consider migrating to Japan. =p

(18) Japan, the recycle nation
I love Singapore because there are rubbish bins everywhere - it makes my life convenient.

In Japan, there are much fewer rubbish bins. But every dustbin is a recycle bin. the McDonalds there requires you to sort your waste by recyclable, non-recyclable and liquid (including ice cubes). Wow.

(19) Lockers in Japan train stations
Being a tourist in Tokyo, I often find myself with large baggage and shopping bags. One of the nice features about their subway and train stations is that there are lockers. For the price of 500 yen (S$7.50), I can put my bags in the locker at any station, and sightsee with just the camera (and the Wifey). Singapore should get some lockers in Orchard Road and Sentosa too.

However, the lockers are normally big enough for your bags, but too small to put in your Wifey if she gets naughty. =p

(20) Japanese babies can't cry
In Singapore, everytime a toddler or kid fall down, they are sure to cry.

In Japan, we have seen countless toddlers fall down, and just stand up on their own without crying. Gosh, I wonder what special milk powder they take.

I have been to Europe and the US and many parts of Asia, but there's no place that impresses me more like Japan when it comes to culture.

Thursday, October 15

My first diary

I wrote my first diary when I was in primary school.

I started one because I heard that writing diaries was a good way to improve my English. And then theres also the part about reading back the diary many years down the road for good old memories.

But what I didn't find out was how to actually write a proper diary entry. I knew it was to record things that happened, and I ended up writing something like this.

6.30am - Woke up.
6.40am - Ate bread, and drank milo.
6.50am - Changed to school uniform
7.05am - Went to school.
7.30am - Reached school.
.....
8.00pm - Ate dinner. Fried bee hoon.
8.40pm - Watch TV.
10.00pm - Finish TV. Went to sleep.

Haha, fallen asleep after reading my typical diary entry? Gosh, I still find this funny sometimes.

Do you all keep a diary?

Tuesday, October 13

The 5 years gap


Wifey is 5 years younger than me.

Many years ago, she went to my ex-company for polytechnic attachment, and ended up getting "attached" (pun intended). Though I have left the company, my legacy as the legendary intern-killer lives on in the company. Hopefully, I have inspired the company to get more female interns, for the sake of the single man who are too caught up at work.

Before we realise it, Wifey and I have been together for 6+ years since we started dating. As I have learnt, there are pros and cons for a man to choose a gal who is 5 years younger than him.

Pros
(1) Savings gap
Since I have worked for 3-5 more years than her, it is natural for me to have much more savings than her. So compared to my peer couples with similar age as me, we have to settle for a cheaper flat. But compared to Wifey's peer couples with similar age as her, she could settle down and buy a flat earlier.

(2)Maturity Level
The typical girl matures earlier than the guy. There were 2 of us who were chasing Wifey at the same time. My love competitor was someone she knew in school, but wasn't as matured in mindset. And I triumphed. Till now, Wifey and I still share alot of common opinions, something I really loved. Also, as I have mentioned in my previous post, if you are a shrew, please get a older man to accept your nonsense.

(3)Aging
Woman age faster than man. So if your man is older, you won't look as old comparitively years down the road. But I believe this is trivial, especially if the gal starts taking care of her skin condition when young. Anti-ageing cream, or even botox (gosh!), anyone?

Cons
(1)Widowing
According to the latest United Nations Longeivity report, the average Singapore citizen dies at an average age of 80. Males are expected to live till average of 78, and woman till age 82. (Yes, the average Singaporean lives longer than Michael Jackson)
Women in Singapore lives an average of 4 years longer than Man.
So if a gal and her hubby are of the same age, it means that she is more likely to live beyond her hubby, and be a widow at the later point of her life. For a man like me who is 5 years older than her, the esimated length of her being a widow is likely to be much longer at about 5 + 4 = 9 years on average. That's really long for my poor Wifey. =(

My Conclusion
To the ladies:
Man are like red wine. They taste better with age. A matured man will give you a wonderful married life. Sure they can't be expected to be as happening as the younger guys, but as you grow older, you will appreciate why experience will beat romantism hands down. And nope, I don't mean those old rich man who are old enough to be your dad.

To the man:
Take care of your spouse's well-being, but pay GREATER attention to your health. For the sake of your loved ones, watch your diet, DON'T BLOODY SMOKE, and go for checkups every 1-2 years, and exercise. If you have time for TV, then you have time for exercise.
Live as long as you can, because you aren't expected to live as long as her.

Be aware of the presence of death, so every minute of your life has more meaning, and you will put better use to it.

Saturday, October 10

Random Notes 38

(1) One more day before I get back to Singapore. I'll miss the culture here, but when it comes to food, I kind of missed the variety of food back in Singapore.

(2) To foongpc: Go ahead and have Random Notes in your blog, this feature is not copyrighted. I thought it's just neat to have this to write down the many thoughts that goes in our mind, but not significant in terms of content to constitute a meaningful full post.

(3) I carried a little paper and pen when I was travelling here, to list the numerous culture differences and observations that I made about the Japanese people here, lest I forget. I will share with you guys when I get back. Hope it will serve as a good guide for my friends here who have either not been to Japan, or to those who are going to Japan soon (that's you, MKL).

(4) Japan is even more expensive than Europe when it comes to spendings. This might be my first and last trip here, but this is money well-spent.

(5) I have read your comments for the past few posts, but thought I will reply after I get back to Singapore. Same goes for my regular blog reads, will look forwrad to reading them when I get back.

(6) Lastly, I missed the storm that was supposed to hit Japan. =( I wanted to experience strong winds for once.

(7) Live everyday like there's no tomorrow.

Monday, October 5

Random Notes 37

(1) Hello there, friends! I am blogging here my service apartment in Tokyo. I wanted to stay away from the laptop, but Wifey told me that someone commented in my previous post to ask me to post something. So HappySurfer, I'm still alive. ^_^

(2) The pictures from my camera are downloaded into the laptop. However the pictures are 4MB+ high resolution pictures, and thus I shall not post any pics till I get back to Singapore and have more time.

(3) The Japanese are TRULY polite people, especially their service counters. Even if they know you do not speak Japanese, they will still talk on and on in their language to explain stuffs and thank you, as part of their service. I was told that their nearby neighbours, the Koreans on the other hand, are not known to have courtesy running in their blood. Is it true?

(4) Japanese ladies are BEAUTIFUL. It truly brings meaning to the phrase "There are 2 types of woman - the pretty ones, and the lazy ones". The Japanese ladies sure are a hardworking lot, making themself presentable before they go out. Almost all young Japanese ladies wear fake eyelashes - HB once wrote in her blog that all man love fake stuff - I'm one of those superficial guys. *blush* And gosh, most of those Japanese gals have real BIG eyes, like in comic books.

(5) It turns out that the more important words I should know are chicken, pork and cow. I had problem trying to figure out the Japanese description of the meat on the bento sets (I don't eat beef, luckily the chinese and japanese word for "cow" is the same).

(6) I went to DisneySea today. And will be going to DisneyLand tomorrow. Did I tell you that the normal T-shirt with Mickey mouse cost S$50+? Ouch.

Ok, cya guys. Drink more water, and stay healthy.

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